3 Things to Do If You & Your Husband Want s*x at Different Times

Some people love morning s*x. They love to roll over to the person next to them and do exactly what happens naturally. Some people (like me) hate it. I want to run in the morning, work on my writing, and do all manner of productive activities. s*x is usually the last thing on my list. My husband? He’s a morning s*x kind of guy.

But come 2 p.m. when all my energy is depleted and the only thing I want to do is lie in bed? That’s a good time to go at it. Sadly, it’s also an impractical time for many reasons (work, kids, obligations — just to name a few).

So what do couples who are on opposite schedules when it comes to s*x and biorhythms do to make things run smoother? We asked several experts to weigh in on this pressing question. One thing is clear: This is NOT a deal-breaker, people. This CAN be overcome. But how?

Here are a few tips:
1.) Let go of being “in the mood.” Forget this idea that we have to always be in the mood to make it happen. Sometimes it’s okay to fake it ’til you make it, Johnson says.
“Be mindful of making er*tic interactions a priority,” she says. “There’s research on the female s*xual response cycle that suggests arousal often precedes desire, so waiting until you feel it may mean that you never will.”

2.) Find ways to get in the mood. You might be a morning person. But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible to get turned on during other parts of the day. You just might have to get more creative. Watch P0*n. Read P0*n. Engage in sexting with your spouse. Anything that gets you (or him) there when you want him is game. “Just because it is not the optimal time of day for you, doesn’t mean you can’t get turned on,” Johnson says. Exactly.

3.) Make appointments. It’s not sexy and it’s not spontaneous, but if you KNOW you need to get it up (so to speak) at 3 p.m. on a Saturday, having that in your calendar can help.
“Find a time that is acceptable for both of you and make sure you set it aside,” Johnson says. Sounds good to me!

The fact is, s*x is not some perfectly ordered menu item that will come neatly wrapped just when you want it. Sometimes it requires some work. So when you and your spouse are off sync, it might take more than a muse to get yourselves back there. Give a little, get a little, and find that groove again.
Soon you may find you want it morning, noon, and night. Then you know you’ve won.
source: thestir.com

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