Well Ladies, If you have a good man better call them and tell them how
much you love them now!? In other parts of the world beautiful girls are
killing themselves for not finding any man willing to wife them up
Hospital administrator Rachel Gow, 29, had wanted to walk up the
aisle and have a family of her own but became "troubled" that she
achieved neither. As her 30th birthday approached the self confessed
"dizzy blonde" she said felt other members of her family were "doing
better than her."
Fearing her boyfriend Anton Tsvarev, 30
would leave her, Miss Gow sent him a test message wishing him "all the
best for the future" before poisoning herself at her home. Mr Tsvarev
who had been visiting a friend later found Miss Gow but she died despite
attempts by him to revive her.
An inquest was told Miss Gow,
from Haslingden, Lancashire, had been an "outgoing, adventurous and
loving" young woman who had attained a 2:1 in History from Lancaster
University before working at Royal Bolton Hospital.
In a
statement read to the Burnley hearing Rachel's brother Stephen Best and
her sister Sarah Davidson said: "Rachel had been a happy child who had
lots of friends, she loved to dance and play the violin.
"She was
very close to her sister Sarah She was very academic and following A
levels she studied at Lancaster University. She also made people laugh.
She was proud to be at Lancaster and also a dizzy blonde."
The
statement added: "She had three breakups before her relationship with
Anton. Her greatest wish was to settle down and get married."
But Miss Gow's problems began in 2011 after her mother Connie a primary school teacher died from cancer aged 66 in 2011.
She
took the death "very hard" but later Miss Gow's family and friends
thought she was improving and she met Mr Tsvarev in May 2012 and he
moved in with her during 2013. She also got her job at the hospital.
The
statement said: "Following the death of her mother Rachel had a period
of independence. She met Anton and they were both extremely happy. He
moved in. They had lots in common.
"She did have three breakups
before her relationship with Anton and her greatest wish was to settle
down, start a relationship and get married.
"But she could not
overcome her previous sadness and felt Anton would leave her. She was
looking forward to turning 30, planning trips to Italy with Anton and
going to go Vegas for her birthday, she was saving money every month.
But the relationship became unstable and they tried to make it work.
Mr
Tsvarev an engineer told the hearing: "Our relationship had a lot of
ups and downs due to her insecurities. This would cause a lot of
problems. She constantly felt I was going to leave her but this was not
the case."
Miss Gow who was due to celebrate her 30th birthday in
January this year went to see a psychologist in September 2014 and Mr
Tsvarev added: "There had been nothing significant at the time except
the anniversary of her mother's death also along with her 30th birthday
and mine.
"These were all things that troubled her. She felt she was not where she should be in life."
He
said she felt that she should be married with children and that her
siblings were doing better than her and said: "This was something she
struggled with.
"Rachel had spoken to me about the fact she had
researched suicide techniques. 'I was not sure how serious she was about
it because she always said things in the heat of the moment."
The
day before Rachel was found last November 1, the couple went to her
father's house to look after his dog while he was away. But in the
morning, the couple had an argument over a text message Miss Gow had
found on Mr Tsvarev's phone from someone else.
He said: "In the
morning we both got up. I had my phone on charge in the bed room. She
looked at it. She came into the living room very upset telling me to
leave. She had found texts on my phone from someone. They were not out
of the ordinary. She didn't see it that way."
Later that the day couple drove home to their house in Haslingden and Anton went out to visit a friend in Preston.
He
said: "She was still upset when we arrived home. She was very agitated.
This was not a new thing. I left the house at 13pm after picking some
clothes as I decided to stay somewhere else for a while. I went to
Preston to visit a friend."
He added: "I got a text from her
wishing me the best for the future. It was common place after an
argument so I didn't think anything of it."
However Mr Tsvarev "had a really bad feeling" so he decided to go back to Haslingden to see if everything was alright.
He said: "I went into the lounge. The lights were off but the fire was on. I could see her lying on the floor."
The
inquest was told that Anton performed CPR on Rachel until emergency
services arrived just before 9pm, but Miss Gow was pronounced dead.
Tests showed Miss Gow had died from hypoxia as a result of helium inhalation.
Recording
a verdict of suicide, Coroner Richard Taylor said: "We have a girl who
is severely troubles by a number of aspects of her life. As I understand
it she was having a slightly more positive year because of new
employment.
"But she clearly had difficulties and at some stage
she purchased the items with which she took her own life. It appears
from her actions she did that with intent to end her life."
In a
statement Mr Tsvarev said: "Everyone is devastated by Rachel's death.
It's a tragic loss for everyone, I'm absolutely heartbroken. Being
around her was so easy, we enjoyed all the same things and we loved
going walking together in the Lake District.
"Rachel did a lot of travelling all over the world and she was very adventurous and loved life.
"She
was a fantastic person who inspired everyone around her. She was still
grieving for her mum - they were very close. She really did miss her
mum, she always spoke very highly of her."
Miss Gow's brother
brother Stephen Best added: "Through all of our grief and sadness, it is
essential that we remind ourselves of why we all loved her. Rachel was
effervescent, full of fun and laughter, and could tell a brilliant joke.
Sister
Sarah Davidson said: "She was very popular and made friends easily. She
was a kind and generous person who made other people feel at ease. She
was a treasured sister and was wonderful with children."
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