Found this on Nairaland… Below are the 10 reasons he stated. Love me some relationship talk hehehe…
It’s funny to me when I read online that all that is required to get a Naija gal is money! People exaggerate the influence of money. Many guys automatically assume that once you display some cash, gals will automatically trip for you like mad. While it may be true to some extent (I have experienced that), it is not always the case.
I am not particularly stinkingly rich but I am a very comfortable bachelor working with one of the foremost multinational oil companies in Nigeria. I can afford the basic things of life with ease and with enough to spare. I also have friends & colleagues who are very comfortable and face similar challenges I and others face. Any rich, single guy will possibly identify with some of the challenges I am about to outline, if not all. Some of the challenges are as follows:
1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a
nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house
and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. undecided I have
been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a
relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t
trust him. sad My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating eventhough I
was never caught.
2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat
her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and
eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that
you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you
that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current
status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with
my relationship lifeI tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take
you serious.
3. Some girls are just interested in your money – Yes, many rich
guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster –
we call them runs girls. angry They pretend to like you but all they are
interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I
can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting)
will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for
them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of
friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds
of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent,
good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many
are.
4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have
rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find
out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends (
and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your
girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on
them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’ cry
5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones –
YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls
tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been
seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer
pretence. embarassed They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They
may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they
assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they
want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that
you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out
that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich
guys in the neighborhood.
6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You
also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of
your money. You beome confused and it gets difficult to settle for a
choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it.
embarassed
7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard
me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely
extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated
you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies
often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that
you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy
to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks.
We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own
business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out
there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly
extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off
too and not much better. Sigh…. cry
8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash –
Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich
guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you
find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class,
you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go
below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression
matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your
‘minimum standard’which may be very ordinary to you, she may become
carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not
to appear cheap. cool
9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength sad –
Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just
want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be
insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our
money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you
that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even
fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to
introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will
snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine
young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you
as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips
are directed towards you…hmm angry
10. You find out the real, hard truth that money can not buy true love.
Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true
love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a
beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl.
Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more
on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been
poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and
have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my
life. From my experience, I can very well say thatLIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.
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